Cleaning Your Emotional Clutter

April 7, 2022

Getting a new start is on many people’s minds as spring approaches! The warmer weather encourages us to clean our homes thoroughly, take care of our gardens, and some of us start to focus on taking better care of our bodies. Many of us, however, overlook the importance of doing a little spring cleaning within as well.

Review Your Values

When we have a lot of values that we aspire to, it is easy for them to get lost in the shuffle. This is why it’s important to choose a few that you hold close to your heart and make them the focus of your life. This will help us stay focused on what’s important in life and ensure that we’re not just spinning our wheels with the rest of them.

Core values are the fundamental beliefs and guiding principles that shape our lives. These values can be anything from a person’s morals, religious beliefs, and what they deem important in life. It is crucial to have a lot of values to aspire to, but it is even better if you choose a few that you hold close to your heart.

If you find yourself struggling with the decision of which core values are most important for you, here are some questions to ask yourself:

  • What do I want my life’s work or legacy to be?
  • What do I want my children or grandchildren say about me when I’m gone?
  • What would I tell myself if I was someone else? 

Weed-out bad relationships

It’s important to weed out bad relationships and friendships from your life’s clutter. It can be hard to do, but it’s worth it. The key is to be honest with yourself and others about the relationship. If you’re not happy, then you should take steps to change it.

It’s normal to want to be with people you enjoy. But when it comes to relationships, there are a lot of different factors involved.

The best relationships have good communication, mutual respect, and shared goals and values. When you’re getting into a new relationship, it’s important to know what you want out of it and what your partner wants out of it as well.

If you’re not sure about the person or the relationship, then don’t be afraid to walk away from it. You deserve better than that!

Practice self-love

Self-love is not just a good idea, it is a necessity. We need to be able to love ourselves in order to be able to give love and care to others. If we don’t take care of ourselves, then how can we take care of others?

Think about how you speak to yourself. Do you call yourself mean names? Do you tell yourself that you are not enough? If someone spoke to you the way that you speak to yourself, would you want them in your life?

A good rule for practicing self-love is to ask yourself “if someone spoke to me the way that I speak to myself, would I want them as a friend?” If your answer is no, cut yourself some slack. It’s common for people to be their own worst critics, but it can greatly damage your self-esteem.

Clean out your emotional closet

You may have to learn to say “no” when your boss asks you to take on extra work, or you may be caught in the middle between two fighting friends. Either way, if there’s something in your life that is sucking your emotional bank dry and causing you to feel stressed, scale back!

Keep tabs on your emotional bank account. Don’t overdraft.

Happy spring cleaning, and remember to take care of yourself before you take care of others!

Other Helpful Resources:

Emotional Self-Care: Self-Care Series (Part 6)
What is Emotional Intelligence
Practicing Self-Compassion

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