4 Signs You Might Want To End A Friendship
Friends come in all shapes and sizes. They can be a true confidant, an emotional support system, or someone you have a lot of fun with. But what happens when you realize that this friend is not the one for you? People can change, and friendships can change with them, and sometimes the new dynamics of the friendship don’t serve you anymore.
Here are 4 signs that it might be time to part ways:
You spend more time trying to please them than yourself.
It can sometimes be good for friends to take turns leaning on one another and supporting each other. But if one person always leans on the other, it can be a sign that there is a problem. The person who is always leaning on the other may feel like they are not being heard or respected. They might feel like they are not appreciated for their contributions to the friendship, or that they are just being used.
The person who is always leaning on the other may also be feeling very tired and overwhelmed with their own life, which could be why they need support from their friend. This might mean that you need to find ways to help your friend manage their own stress so that they don’t end up leaning on you all the time. If you’re always there for them but they don’t do the same for you, it might be a sign to move on.
They don’t respect your boundaries.
When you’re a good friend, it can be hard to say “no” to them. But sometimes, you have to do what’s best for yourself and your boundaries.
This is not an easy thing to do, but it’s necessary in order to maintain healthy friendships. You should never feel guilty about standing up for yourself and your boundaries. There are times when you’ll need to say “no” – whether it’s during weekend plans or doing them a favor – and that’s okay!
It can be hard to maintain close friendships while maintaining your own mental health and boundaries. If your friend gets upset about you making space for yourself or setting boundaries, that’s not a healthy dynamic. Friendships are supposed to be supportive, understanding and non-judgmental. When they aren’t, it’s a pretty clear sign that the relationship might not be healthy. A friend supports you and understands when you need to take time for yourself.
You can‘t connect with them
Sometimes, life changes make it so you have less in common with old friends. It may be time to let go if your conversations are mostly limited to work or the weather and there’s not much else connecting you.
This doesn’t mean the friendship is beyond repair, it just means it may be time for a reevaluation of the friendship. You may decide to try and rekindle, or spend less time with them. Either way the most important part is that you make the choice that is healthiest for you.
It feels exhausting to spend time with them
You may need to distance yourself from a friend who is consistently negative without making any effort to change. It is human nature to be compassionate and empathic towards others, especially friends, but you must take care of yourself first.
When someone is always negative and complains, it can be hard to be around them. It feels like they are draining our energy. They can make us feel inadequate, frustrated, and angry. Although understanding what makes them so negative doesn’t hurt, if their negativity is negatively affecting your mood, it’s okay to separate from them.
Moving Forward
When it comes to friendships, it is important to set healthy boundaries. There are times when we need to take a step back and reevaluate our friendships. We might not realize it but we might be giving up on ourselves and our own needs, for the sake of others.
We need to make sure that we are setting boundaries with friends who don’t support us or who do not have our best interests at heart. It is important that we don’t forget about ourselves and what makes us happy in the process of trying to make everyone else happy.
